They fight for their relationship not because there is unconditional love, but because they are unable to be alone. It is always easier to stay in a comfortable and safe relationship than to be alone.
As mentioned above, it is quite common to confuse love with attachment, but once you understand the difference, you feel free and yourself again. Of course, at first you might be afraid to admit it, because you know that a relationship that is not based on love can not last long.
The fear of losing the relationship and jumping into the unknown is terrifying as hell. But the worst thing that can exist is to stay in a relationship without love simply because you are afraid.
When you recognize that it is only attachment, not love, you can open yourself to reality and find someone who will make you truly happy. Being stuck in a comfortable relationship, but not satisfying, can be very stressful and exhausting, especially when you do not know exactly what is wrong.
The difference between love and attachment is not so great, and that’s why it’s hard to notice. Love is pure, healthy and safe. He raises you and makes you feel at peace. Attachment can, of course, make you feel similar emotions, but it is also toxic. Attachment also makes you jealous, scared and needy. You feel at peace when your partner is at your side.
With attachment, you do not care about your spouse’s happiness. You want it only by your side. You need it at your side. You can not cope without him, and it’s even an unhealthy obsession. With love, you let the other person be free and flourish. You like to see him happy and see his dreams come true. You appreciate the time spent together, but you also respect his privacy.
True love helps both partners evolve as individuals. They support each other, but also give themselves space and privacy. They choose to be together, but they do not need each other, and there is a big difference.
After the breakup, the love remains stable and, in general, the partners can get along. Of course, it hurts, but if there is no obsession, it is manageable. With attachment, pain is destructive.
Usually, people who have been in an unhealthy relationship can not get along because they are starting to feel resentful. You start making the other responsible for all your misery and sadness. You do not like him as a person, you love him as a part of your life. And it’s hard to give up a part of your life.
Attachment is often more harmful than love. With love, you can be honest with your partner and express how you feel. Attachment allows you to see only the good of your spouse, and you are afraid to fight because you are too afraid to lose it.
In conclusion, love is pure and healthy. It allows you to feel safe, happy and safe. Attachment is an unhealthy obsession, which destroys you and makes you feel uncertain, frightened and jealous. Do not settle for a relationship based on attachment, because ultimately it will make you sad, stressed and depressed. Learn to love yourself first and find a partner who will love you with all your faults and who will never take you for granted.