It is curious that, having advanced in time, we continue to make the same mistakes as in the past. Many people today are still unable to be happy without a spouse. A situation that afflicts many people and often creates serious problems for others.
One of these problems is the famous emotional dependence that leads us to toxic relationships, while others have as central core our own esteem that is sometimes so low that we need someone who can love us for what we are.
It is normal to be afraid of loneliness in a world in which romantic relationships are so important, if not too much.
It is possible to be single and happy-to
If you are one of those who think that there is no greater happiness than being in a relationship, you may have made the mistake of leaving your happiness in the hands of others. You have made this person responsible for your well-being.
You do not realize that you have to be happy yourself.
Nobody should condition your happiness. And more, many of us need to learn to be alone because we have always escaped from this situation.
You can know yourself
You may already think you know and do not need time to know you. If you think about it, then you do not know anything about yourself.
With time we change, and for that we must update ourselves and continually discover the person we have become. Also, if you think you know yourself, spend some time alone. You will realize that this is not the case.
It can be difficult if you have just finished a relationship. You have shared years of your life with another person, responsibilities, moments in your life … but you are alone now.
Getting involved in a new relationship immediately is what many people do because they feel empty and they do not know who they are now that their “half” is no longer there. Rest assured, this feeling will pass, it’s only a transition stage.
Take the opportunity to meet you again and rediscover yourself. You will need it.
2. Enjoy your time
3. You can focus only on yourself
As we have said, you now have all the time in the world to devote yourself to yourself. Why would not you do this trip that you wanted to do? You may want to learn a new language or learn about other cultures? It’s up to you !
This is the best time to evolve professionally or take a little care of yourself. You do not have anyone else to worry about except you and this is positive. Do not waste your time, do not throw this time out the window.
4. You are now much stronger
If you realize, when you get used to living as a couple and suddenly you do not have it anymore, you feel helpless. You do not know what to do or how your life will continue. Do you know why this is happening to you?
Our comfort zone collapsed and, unintentionally, we came out of it. Accepting this situation and knowing how to extract all the juice will allow you to be a much stronger person.
Observe all the benefits that celibacy allows you. You do not have to worry about anyone any more and this, by showing a little coolness, is a relief! Sometimes a period of celibacy does us a lot of good, do not waste it.
5. You sleep better and are more relaxed
You may miss cuddling and caressing when you’re alone in bed, but look at it on the right side. You can go to bed and get up at the time you want, you do not depend on anyone, you do not have to worry about anyone.
Do you remember those couple discussions that did not let you sleep? And these situations that you go back every night? Jealousy, differences, misunderstandings … all this is past! A relief for your sleep, do not you think?
6. You will learn to value the true friendship
When we start going out with a person, the news provokes a distancing of our friends, an error that we have often made.
These friends who support you unconditionally even when we leave them aside, we must recover them and never relegate them to the background. Couples come and go, but friends stay.
In addition, you must learn that no spouse should occupy 24 hours of your time. This is not just for anyone, not for you.
7. Singles will let you know new people
As a couple, the possibilities to know new people are dwindling. You can not always see who you want, or do what you want. Maybe as a couple you had your group of friends …
To do this, enjoy your celibacy to travel, to see new places, to live these experiences that you could not take advantage of if you were a couple and enjoy the freedom you have now.
You may think that celibacy is not for everyone, but you are mistaken. The fear of time passing by and remaining alone terrifies us and forces us to desperately search for an accomplice, a companion of life.
But who said you could not be happy without a spouse? Is it negative to grow old with good friends, but no spouse at our side? Even today it seems that it is “frowned upon” to bet on celibacy because what is “normal” is that we all wanted to be in a relationship.
You decide the direction your life takes, so you avoid frustration or feeling lonely because all the people around you are in a relationship except you.
In fact, even if you are together, you are with yourself and you enjoy the time you have now for yourself.
Learn to love yourself, enjoy doing what you want, know, try, enjoy, live and feel. Life can change from one moment to another, so enjoy the present.
Sometimes we are not aware of how good it would be for us to be alone for a long time, entirely devoted to ourselves.