I think that attractive people are those who know that their appearance is not the most attractive thing about them. They have some form of trust, it’s usually more fun to spend time with them, and they are ready to love you for who you are. Not for your appearance.
Body image is not a light subject. There are people who suffer from recognized physical and mental illness related to their appearance. I guess everyone feels that they are inferior at one time or another. I am not trying to minimize the suffering that people experience with their physical appearance. I just hope that even for a few minutes you can listen to me.
I think that attraction that is not physical can end up being physical, when you really love someone. I’m not going to lie by saying that it’s not important to take care of yourself, it’s obviously important. But at the end of the day, you have to be with someone who wants you for who you are, and respect how you want to introduce yourself. Not someone who wants you to look like what he wants.
The way you choose to introduce yourself reveals something about you, we can not pretend otherwise. This indicates that you are taking good care of yourself, but you know that it is not your only quality.
To all of the universe: I’ll tell you something now. It does not matter if you are physically “perfect”. And you should not look for someone physically perfect. You do not have to be muscular or have a dream silhouette. To be honest, it does not appeal to me. Maybe I’m weird. I guess I feel like you spend too much time in the gym and not enough to do other things that make you an interesting human.
But it’s just my opinion. I want someone who exists, I do not want a carbon copy of a perfect generic. I want a person with all his quirks and “imperfections”. What counts is an awesome character, and everything we experience while we are together. Our physics is ephemeral, so it’s better to be interested in something else, is not it?
It always happens to me when I hear men admit that they are worried about their appearance. I guess it’s because I’m so used to hearing girls whining about it that it’s reassuring to hear that men are doing the same thing. But it’s just as disturbing because it’s sad to think like that.
We are looking for real, loving, authentic people who bring us up and give us joy. If you are interested in people who are happy just based on your physique, it may be time to look elsewhere.
Love yourself for all that is in you and you can find someone else who will do it too.