This is also why a friend may fall in love with someone you consider ordinary. This person corresponds to his own “Lovemap”, not to yours. It is not a conscious action on our part, it is done unconsciously, without thinking about it. The mind does it alone. That’s why it’s possible to fall in love with someone and not have any idea why you’re in love. Your subconscious is responsible.
It is for this reason that love is such a “mysterious phenomenon” and many people put it on the account of fate. But in reality, it has nothing to do with fate, everything was related to your subconscious, which made it possible to determine whether or not the person fits your checklist. The truth of the matter is that if you are able to better know the specific criteria of your subconscious, you will be able to quickly determine why you fall in love with certain people and not others.
Here is an example of Jamie’s checklist.
Jamie is a 26 year old man with some serious girlfriends behind him. He left the university for 2 years and works in London. He’s tired of meeting women and looking for a more serious partner. Jamie’s list begins with the following 4 conditions:
1. She must have the same level of education as me.
2. She must be a brunette
(Jamie was destroyed by a brunette whom he was in love with, so his subconscious included him in his checklist to help him make up for his failure of past relationships with brunettes).
3. She must be close to her family.
(Family and kids are important to Jamie, and he’s looking for someone who could become a great mom, you see, we’re attracted to people who have what we want and need, that’s why Jamie’s included in its list).
4. She must like to travel.
If Jamie is currently single, but looking for a partner, and he meets a wonderful red-haired woman, he probably will not fall in love with her. Even if he thinks she is nice, he does not really understand that what stops the attraction … there is his subconscious list of different criteria that he looks for.
It is only when another person fills the boxes for the majority of the criteria (which are usually the most important points on your list of criteria) that one can fall in love with that person. Your subconscious will help you stay in love with that person so that you keep a good relationship with. As your subconscious attaches to that particular person like that, it’s for that reason that it’s so hard to forget a person you’re in love with even years after separation.
2. What methods do people use to come to an end in love
Here are a number of tried and tested methods that can help make someone fall in love:
1.They meet the different criteria.
We all have this list in our mind. This list has all the basic criteria that we expect to meet even before thinking of falling in love with someone. Just because a person meets these criteria does not mean that we fall in love with them, but if the person does not meet any criteria, it is almost certain that we will never fall in love.
Some examples of these criteria might include: “He must love dogs”, “He must be active”, “He must be well behaved”, and so on. Before trying to knock down a person in love, they do some research.
Find out all the basic information about his background and interests.
2. They meet your unmet needs.
When people are looking for a new partner, they try to find another person who looks like them in many ways. They seek their own personal strengths in a person, and also the opposite of their weaknesses. For example, a person who tends to feel inferior, but also intelligent, will look for such a smart partner, but instead of inferiority, they seek trust to help create a better balance.
3. How far are they willing to go?
Many people often wonder if persistence and constant pursuit really work. If the person you are pursuing depends on another person to feel better or to escape a bad place in their life, it will work. If a person falls into this category, it is very likely that she will jump at the chance to enter a new relationship.
In this case, the chances of dropping the person in love are much greater. In short, when people are more vulnerable, they are more likely to fall in love with you faster.
4. They use your mutual friends.
If you have friends in common, you can and should use this to your advantage. The main reason behind this is that the subconscious is programmed more easily when there are reliable sources (like friends). If their friends think you’re great, chances are they’ll agree. If their friends think you’re an idiot, it’s likely they’ll agree. In a way, it is a subtle form of brainwashing, the more your common friends will say that you are a beautiful person, the more likely you are to mark their minds.
5. They manually transfer your mind.
The more you repeat something to someone, the more likely you are to think about that particular thing. Why?
It is a simple and continuous repetition that can greatly influence the subconscious to accept something. You can easily influence their mind by subtly reminding them of your presence. Stay in sight, allow them to see you as much as possible, no matter if you rarely speak, stay where they can see you and you can enforce your position.
6. They associate with positive things.
When your name is mentioned in a crowd, what is the first word likely to come to people’s minds? How do they see you? Do they think “strong will,” “happy,” “confident,” or is it something more negative like “needy”? The better you position yourself in people’s minds, the better they will perceive you.
No matter who you are (we all have negative qualities), this is the way they perceive you. And you only want them to perceive you in a positive light.
3. Does love really exist or is it just a myth?
Love at first sight actually exists. If someone manages to meet your criteria that are on your subconscious list from the beginning, you will most likely fall in love with that person at first glance.
“But wait a minute,” you say to yourself, “If I have not spoken to him, how do I know if he meets my criteria or not? “
It’s easy. Your criteria may include things like how they stand, walk, talk or even interact with others. This can happen if the manners, actions, appearance, or other things of the person remind you of someone else.
The classic example is if the person reminds you of someone you once liked. We usually follow a pattern and fall in love with the same type of person we loved in our past.