In the child psychiatry department of Dr. Lombard, one day a good young boy arrived at school, but he did not care at all. Trained at Jungian psychoanalysis, the doctor submitted him to about twenty existential questions. “Why do we come to Earth, what is the meaning of life? He began. The child seemed destabilized, but he encouraged her: “Close your eyes, go to the bottom of you, take your time, you know the answer. After a few minutes, his eyes full of tears, the boy replied: “To love. Dr. Lombard went on: “When are you happiest? When he was playing basketball. “Evidence of a need for communion”, the doctor analyzed, who continued: “If a very good friend of your mother invited you two months in Italy, would you go? Yes, “right now,” exclaimed the child.
The latter did not care at all for anything! His interests were simply higher than his daily environment. For the psychiatrist, he remained “connected to the Self”, that is, to the psychic globality of his being. “In this type of personality, the taste of discovery is stronger than the need for security, says the doctor. They are looking for harmony, information, awareness. “
Dr. Lombard offered to visit his unit. “She welcomes young people of your age, between 6 and 12,” he explained. Some people ask themselves a lot of questions, they are there to think and rest. The boy accepted with enthusiasm. “He did not have to go to the hospital as sick, but as a caregiver! concludes with a smile Dr. Lombard. We must be wary of labels. It is sometimes enough to recreate the link. When I explain to these children that we belong to a higher consciousness, they stop feeling intruders. “
A form of porosity
Young people connected to their Self, the child psychiatrist believes to meet more and more. Hypersensitive, with a global vision of situations, they often have trouble understanding the world in which they fell, and can very quickly feel out of step. “For ten years, I see everywhere! stresses the doctor. Of the six hundred children I was working on at the end of my hospital service career, at least sixty were involved – while they were very rare forty years ago. “
How to explain that they are more and more visible?
Hungry for harmony, they can, in the face of a violent, intolerant and individualistic social reality, become aggressive, close or depressed. Surprisingly mature, they are also very insecure. Their cognitive skills are confusing, as are their acute sense of truth, justice and coherence. Intuitive and responsive, they answer unresolved questions and easily solve problems, without putting words on their reasoning. Head in the moon but bulimic new learning, they are often bored at school, confronting their teachers as much as their parents. Who are these children? How to explain that they are more and more visible?
For the psychologist Jeanne Siaud-Facchin, gifted specialist, everything comes from the recognition, for fifteen years, of an atypical form of intelligence, more focused on the skills of the “right brain” than on those of the “brain left “. “The contributions of neuroscience show that the structure and function of their brain are different,” she says. The density of their neuronal connections is greater, both in the prefrontal cortex – the most accomplished area of intelligence – than in the parietal lobe, – the plate of redistribution of information in the brain. “Hence, intellectually, an immense speed of analysis, understanding, treatment and memorization,” notes the psychologist.
Another essential specificity is the hyper-connectivity of their cerebral hemispheres, linked to a particular structure of the corpus callosum that separates them, but also the preferential commitment of the right, including for tasks that usually make use of the left. “Hence a more global, more pictorial, more emotional and more analogous approach to things, which absorbs information by printing and unfolds in a tree structure in a meteoric and intuitive way”, continues Jeanne Siaud-Facchin. This gives them a relationship with the intense world. “The senses are sharper than most people, they see everything, hear everything, feel everything,” says the psychologist, and capture signals that no one else perceives, which sometimes leads to the development of visionary capabilities, a subtle, underground understanding of the world and people.
A stronger ability to feel the emotions of others …
The flip side? A huge emotional permeability.
“It has been shown that they have a particular vulnerability of the amygdala, this area nestled deep in the archaic brain whose function is to decode emotions,” says Jeanne Siaud-Facchin. Result: what would be a trifle for someone else triggers at home an emotional cataclysm. “They also have mirror neurons in larger amounts,” says the psychologist, hence a stronger ability to feel the emotions of others. “
The dawn of a new humanity?
Empathetic, hyper-connected to their environment, they can feel invaded all the time … And disturb a society that judges referent a more linear, conceptual and analytical operation. What to do with those funny birds who “know” without being able to explain how, who mix an immense sensibility with a sharp lucidity, who deploy an unpleasant energy which can pass for arrogance, which unconsciously catch signals that the others do not not perceive, and seem to have access to hidden information?
For the psychologist Marie-Françoise Neveu, who has accompanied children for more than thirty years they call “current”, to avoid pasting other labels, it is first to welcome them as they are .
“Discoveries have highlighted a neural network around the heart,” she says. For her, these young people are symptomatic of the emergence of an emotional intelligence, which emancipates “of the duality between right brain and left brain to enter a form of unity”. From his point of view, they are also a sign of an evolution of humanity towards a more global consciousness, more open to the sacred, more in need of respect, justice and meaning. “You have to look at these children,” she continues. They are not dysfunctional, they just have special skills. “
Just as you do not have to put them on a pedestal or believe them to be “empowered”, just because they are incredibly creative, or have extraordinary perceptions and intuitions. “Yes, they have access to other dimensions. Yes, they have a less linear approach to time, more focused on the moment – which can lead to action difficulties. Yes, they are in phase with a vibratory evolution of the Universe, she estimates. But our mission, as adults, is not to idealize them; simply to accept their particularity “and to make the process of understanding how they work, in order to better support them, with regard to their needs.
These young people are symptomatic of the emergence of an emotional intelligence …
Jeanne Siaud-Facchin confirms: “If the child encounters difficulties, we must analyze them in the light of his profile. On the assumption that he is lazy, unmotivated, and in opposition to his own best interests – what these atypical beings often hear from their teachers or their entourage -, we mistreat him. Instead of helping him, he is pushed in, he is prevented from blossoming. He may stumble, reject the set of rules. But if we recognize its difference, we can take it into account to adjust the answer … without necessarily, of course, explain everything by this prism. “If he feels that he has a place, that he is recognized, the child can, too, make the effort to adapt to the system,” said the psychologist.
“The key is to be careful not to forge false personality,” says Dr. Lombard. We must not induce anything, just listen and receive, so that they feel understood. All the art is to put them in self-therapy situation. When they are in the Self, children know better than anyone what they need. Of course, each case is complex, particular. The more we act in anticipation rather than reaction, the more we can count on educational institutions that do not try to get everyone in the same mold, the more support networks and the dissemination of information to parents, the more it will be possible to capture all that these children can bring. “In my opinion, we must look at these atypical personalities in an evolutionary perspective, concludes Jeanne Siaud-Facchin. To give them more space could greatly advance humanity. “