Dr. Hamilton has been pediatrician for 40 pounds his infallible method for calming a crying baby. The secret is simple. Hold and tilt: Hold the baby, fold his arms over his chest, put his hands gently on the baby’s arms to hold his arms and chin.
With the other hand, grasp the baby under the diaper and tilt 45 ° forward.
The cries stop immediately. At that moment rock it in this position. Indeed the baby has just found his fetal position that reassures him.
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Here are the tips of psychologist Anne Bacus and her five-point action plan.
1. He’s crying? Act as quickly as possible
Fortunately, there is a long time when a toddler screamed so that he could “make” his lungs. If from 3 months, and even more beyond 6 months, you can allow yourself to postpone his response of a few minutes, it is imperative the first months to intervene as soon as he calls you with his cries.
- His tears are a draft of communication: not to answer him is to refuse the exchange.
- If you let him cry too long, he will not know exactly why he was crying at first and it will be almost impossible to calm him down.
- To act, to try something, even if it does not work right away, will help you to better support your crying.
2. Eliminate the medical causes of crying
Before anything else, you must of course make sure that your baby does not suffer.
- Any kind of shouting that is different from what they usually do (especially if they are very high, whether they occur suddenly in the middle of the night, or they look like continuous moans) should lead you to see a doctor.
- Same thing if your toddler is feverish, coughs, has runny nose, vomits or has loose stools.
3. Crying baby: ask yourself the right questions
Hunger, fatigue, the need for proximity, the need to suckle, discomfort (it’s cold, it’s hot, it’s wet), boredom … These six reasons alone explain a lot of crying infants.
Case in point: your baby starts a concert of lamentations … useless to propose to him, in less than five minutes, a bottle (especially if it comes to eat), its lollipop, to change it, etc. He would not find it again … and would cry even more!
Better to calmly ask the right questions. When did he last eat (hungry)? Is it dirty (discomfort)? Is he too much or not enough dressed in relation to temperature (discomfort)? If I give him my thumb to suck, does it calm down (need to suck)? Is he alone in his bed for more than ten minutes (boredom)? Did he fix his mobile phone intensely for more than five minutes (fatigue)?
None of these questions provides an effective solution to her crying? Take your baby against you. It probably needs to be in contact with your body heat (need proximity).
4. Do not sulk the anti-crying “stuff”
The “there are only” girlfriends, the “should” mothers are often irritating. But in the lot, there are sometimes good ideas. Here are some great classics … and others, more wacky. Conduct your survey of those around you on anti-crying tips. This will dramatize the situation. And who knows, you may discover pearls!
- A lullaby tenderly sung to your little one’s ear.
- A piece of classical music muted.
- A gentle belly massage to relieve the sores of a still hesitant digestion.
- A hot water bottle not too hot on the little belly, for the same reasons.
- A round (or more) of the block by car or stroller.
- Round trips in the elevator.
- Bring the hair dryer to your stomach or legs (at a reasonable distance and as long as it is not too hot).
- Plug in the vacuum cleaner (if it is not too noisy) next to it.
- Wrap it in a sheepskin.
- Install it in a cardboard box with a blanket, in which its head and feet touch the sides.
- Run the water tap next to him.
- Give him a warm bath.
5. Accept that he’s crying!
To intervene does not mean to succeed! In spite of all your good will, your crying baby may not stop. And it will not be a drama!
- A certain amount of crying is necessary for its proper development. If only to evacuate all the tensions accumulated during a day. Crying lowers blood pressure, eliminates toxins, relaxes muscle tension, and restores breathing. In short, it’s calm!
- So if none of the proposed answers soothes, let him cry is that he needs it.
- It may also be that your “heavy weeper” keeps you awake at night and exhausts you. In this case too, leave him a little alone in front of his tears. Because we must do everything to avoid this situation where, at the end of nerves, you could lose your cool.