They will elaborate a lie before admitting a fault, no matter how obvious. The good thing is that as rational human beings, we do not need a flawed explanation to move forward. We can choose to achieve and accept the toxic manipulation, an action that allows us to move forward without regrets.
2. THEY MAKE YOU “PROVE THAT YOU DESERVE IT”
Not surprisingly, the toxic people have a flagrant resemblance to the narcissist. They will make you choose between something that will be beneficial to your life, or decide to stay with them a little longer. In case you choose the first, expect a dramatic fireworks display.
Forget. Go ahead. You have one person, and only one person, for whom you have to prove something.
3. THEY ARE PROJECTING, DO NOT REFLECT
Projection is nothing more than a psychological manipulation. Rather than taking possession of their feelings, they are more likely to blame you for being the source. It can be as simple as “You’ve been in a bad mood all day,” or “Your attitude really makes me feel bad. “
Remember, this psychological manipulation has nothing to do with you. It’s only about them. And it will always be like that.
4. HANDLING IS IN THEIR DNA
Attribute these achievements to lack of self-esteem or egotism. It is likely that this manipulation is so rooted that even the most disinterested and benevolent among us are unable to appease such an outrageous and devastating behavior.
5. THEIR “TRUE SELF” IS NEVER REVEALED
One day, the person is loving and attentive; Another, she is distant and abusive. That’s how they want to be. This is how they keep control.
People with a big heart will almost always try to understand someone else’s problems, and find some sort of solution. The problem is that there is no real “problem” and that a “solution” is nothing but an illusion.
See also: 7 manipulative tactics used by toxic people to silence you
6. THEY WILL HUNT THE OCCASION
Do you have good news to share? You’d better not involve a toxic person. Have you received an increase? Planned vacation? Adjusted your schedule to become more available?
Toxic people have a way to turn any positive news into something negative. It’s their nature.
7. NON-RELEVANCE IS UNNECESSARY
Solving a problem involving more than one person requires cohesion. Unfortunately, toxic people are totally unable to have a natural and fair response.
Instead, they deviate from their responsibilities while redirecting their attention to an unrelated issue that could (but probably not) result from your actions. Solving a problem is not important for toxic people.
8. DENIGRATION …
Although you could probably talk about the wrong time of a toxic person, you do not do it. Why? Well, because you are a decent human being with a big heart.
On the other hand, toxic people refuse to allow such “transgressions” to fall by the wayside. In their disillusioned sense of reality, they will insist that any perceived obstacle is a point of pain.