The Mental Health defines the psychological well-being, emotional and cognitive or lack of mental disorders. The term is relatively recent and polysemic. According to J. Sutter, mental health is perceived as “[the] ability of the psyche to function harmoniously, pleasantly, effectively and flexibly to cope with difficult situations by being able to regain balance. (Source)
When we are in a relationship, it should always be good for our psychological health. We sincerely hope that we can share, mutual positive thoughts and feelings with each other for a long time to come, without burden.
Much of the happiness we derive from a relationship depends on our positive state of mind. In the end, the success or failure of any relationship, friendship, marriage, etc. the depth and quality of the interaction we have with someone else. Finally, our mental state is affected positively or negatively, depending on these interactions.
Unfortunately, there are many unhealthy relationships. Take the divorce for example. Although statistics vary by source, about half of all marriages end in divorce (the actual stat is probably a little less than half, in fact). Divorce is an extremely painful event; that can potentially affect a person ‘s mental health before, during and after. It’s not just divorce, though. Our friendships and encounters also have the ability to influence our mental health.
In the midst of a whirlwind relationship, it can be quite difficult to slow down and evaluate our mental state. Most of the time, our goal lies in one of two areas: (1) the healing relationship, or (2) developing a way out of it. The degree of harm that a negative relationship causes to our health depends on a few different variables including:
– The duration of the relationship
– The type of relationship (marriage, friendship, etc.)
– If the violence occurs (physical or mental)
– If there are children involved
– If the infidelity has taken place
That said … it’s been awhile since our emotional and / or mental health has been suffering for too long. This is especially true when it is a direct consequence of someone who does not deserve your love, affection and attention.
HERE ARE 7 SIGNS THAT YOUR PARTNER MAY BE BAD FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH:
1. IT THREATENS YOU INDIRECTLY
Some said “no” at their peril “. I know many who have never recovered. I have a long arm! “.
Implied: these are not increased, displayed, or worse downgraded. When a partner initiates such things, it is to stoke your deep fears.
Fear of giving a bad image of oneself, of not being loved, of not being recognized. So your survival instinct pushes to give way.
2. THERE IS A FEELING OF ANGER, FEAR OR ANXIETY DURING THE INTERACTION
In a mentally unhealthy relationship for some time, there will often be a feeling of negative emotions amplified by communication with the other person. There is almost a feeling of dread that never really dissipates, despite all our efforts. It’s as if we’ve been hurt for so long, that any conversation or interaction is bringing back negative feelings. The frequency of these thoughts and emotions is usually related to the severity and duration of the abuse. Constant negative thoughts and emotions will hurt our mental health.
3. YOU FIND EXCUSES FOR THEIR BEHAVIOR
If we ever find excuses for someone else, well, we should stop. The problem, when we continue to find excuses for someone else is twofold: (1) the other person can continue to have are negative behavior without consequence, and (2) find excuses to other people for their behavior that will hurt another relationship.
But, we must also look at the excuses we find. For example:
– “He’s a very good friend, I did something wrong”
– “I do not want to hurt his feelings …”
4. YOU IGNORE THE RIGHT TO THINK / TO FEEL / TO ACT …
If we want to keep a relationship that does not work, we often ignore the right to think, feel or act. Some people will not even talk about believing they are kind of benefactors!
We often see it with couples, especially those with children. A person is completely disappointed with the relationship, but “out of love for children” she will just bury her thoughts, feelings and emotions. She will not try to change her situation.
5. ALWAYS TRY TO DEVINER YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS
From time to time, it is normal to guess our thoughts and feelings. After all, we are human. That said, it is not normal for someone to always try to behave in ways that always lead us to evaluate our mental state and guess our emotions. If this happens repeatedly over time, there is a strong possibility for the other person to be manipulative.
6. CONSTANTLY TRY TO “REPAIR” THE RELATIONSHIP WITH LITTLE RESULTS
A relationship is a two-way street. Both people must be ready to give and receive from time to time. When someone does not want to return the favor to maintain a healthy relationship, we can not do much. If, despite our efforts, the other person: (1) seems to be changing only for a short period of time or (2) refuses to make any kind of change in his behavior, this probably indicates that the relationship is leading nowhere. We can not force friendships. You can not force relationships. You can not force a wedding. You can “work” on a relationship, but it’s only possible if both people are willing to invest the time and effort to do it.
7. YOUR PARTNER IS LOOKING FOR YOU TO GUILTY
You can not refuse me that! “. Or »After all that I did for you, you owe me that! Certainly, he or she helped you, but from there to remind you every time he or she asks you something. Your partner plays on the principle of reciprocity, which is to “return the elevator”. An effective technique, because no one wants to be considered ungrateful.
In summary, we should not be willing to tolerate a negative ongoing relationship. While we are reluctant or fearful in connecting with someone else, it is often for the best – both for us and for them. We need to be proactive in taking care of our mental health with the utmost seriousness while refusing to collaborate with people who threaten to destabilize our emotional and mental stability.
“The way people treat you is their karma; the way you react is yours “. – Wayne Dyer