They know just what to say, how to say it, who to say it to, and what to do with them to get what they want. These people do not care about how people feel or their lives.
But you are a minor inconvenience for what they want from you.
1. “Do not overreact”
Most of the time, these people will overreact themselves if you continue to deny everything they seek. Do not give in, you do not dramatize, they just want to see you give in to their needs.
2. “Do not dramatize”
After telling you not to overreact, they will tell you not to dramatize. Unfortunately, this scenario is already dramatic with all the information they can get from you.
It is important to see that it is they who dramatize and not to go into their little manipulation games.
3. “Do not be so sensitive”
By saying this, this person is already showing that she does not care about your feelings for the situation. Regardless of what they ask for and if you are not comfortable, you do not have to explain to them why you feel like that.
You do not have to justify yourself to someone who does not care how you feel.
4. “Do not be ridiculous”
If this person really has the audacity to tell you that you are ridiculous because you said no, then you will want to answer him immediately. Do not get into her game, no matter what she tries to tell you or how you act.
If being “ridiculous” is a rational answer to their wants or needs, then that’s probably a good reason why you feel that way. You are not ridiculous, you think much more clearly than ever. If someone is ridiculous it’s them.
5. “Understand me well”
Often, the manipulator will use this final sentence which is “Do not misunderstand my intentions. Unfortunately, there is no other way to interpret what they want from you.
They have already misunderstood when it comes to your wants and needs by harassing you for something for their own personal benefit.
You did not misunderstand anything. You owe nothing to this person. Not even the time you spend with her right now.