Having a conversation with a narcissist can sometimes make you want to bang your head against a brick wall. It may sound a little exaggerated, but in truth, a brick wall has the same level of empathy, understanding, and validation as a narcissist. It turns out that these people do not care about what you are saying.
5 behaviors that narcissists are used to displaying:
1. THEY LIKE TO BE PASSED FOR THE VICTIM
The deceitful people like to play the victim, and the narcissists are part of it. This tactic of manipulation is performed to the detriment of another person.
Although narcissists are emotionally neutral, they understand very well the power of human empathy. This knowledge is used to counter any real or perceived “threat” to their superior position. In the event that they hurt someone, they take a defensive stance, this often involves the emotional manipulation of those around them.
2. THE REVERSE PROJECTION
Before knowing that we are in the company of a narcissist, we relate to that person as if he were a rational human being. As we do not deceive or manipulate people, we firmly believe that others do not.
However, when this trust is betrayed, we often feel confused, hurt and, in a way, responsible for the behavior of the narcissist. But that’s exactly what narcissists want.
If you do not take precautions, a narcissist can quickly “return the conversation”, which makes you take the burden of guilt. Meanwhile, the narcissist subtly reverses the reality of the situation and takes the role of the innocent victim. In other words, it reverses the roles.
Narcissists constantly want to be the center of attention. When the subject does not concern them, they quickly interrupt the dialogue and try to refocus the conversation on themselves.
If someone intervenes fiercely, trying to redirect the conversation, the narcissist quickly neutralizes it to silence it. This is exactly the result he is seeking.
4. THE PERPETUAL BLAME
Narcissists will address sensitive topics (eg, job responsibilities) to distract your attention. They do it to put you in a defensive position, regardless of the merit behind such tactics. They will ask questions, focusing on any real or perceived flaws.
In turn, you will defend yourself. Meanwhile, the narcissist will continue to debate their inconceivable idea that you “are in the wrong”. At the same time, he refuses any responsibility for his behavior and leaves you in a state of resistance.
5. SHOCK AND EFFROI
When a narcissist seems to show anger or rage, he intends to submit to you. This is an enigma, because narcissists do not usually display such behavior.
The intention here is to confuse and intimidate their victim. Rational people, especially those who are not usually used to such excesses, can become confused and intimidated. As a result, the victim can lower his defenses and become sensitive to suggestion.