When someone sent a text message or left a hurtful voice message, I used to delete the message right away. Later, when the person wanted to talk to me again and she was kind, I forgot those words.
However, when the same person continued to do the same thing over and over again, she was behaving in a way that would likely continue. So, the next time, I kept all the messages for the times when I felt bad about letting them come back in my life.
I reread the message and remembered what I had done to deserve such words, such language.
When in fact the only harm I had was to let this person back in my life so that she could continue the verbal / emotional abuse.
# 3: IT’S NORMAL TO BLOCK PEOPLE IN LIFE
We go through a process of mourning when we separate from someone, and even if that person may miss you, if that person continues to treat you in the same way that led to the breakup, blocking it is the most humane thing to do for her and for yourself.
# 4: MEETING APPLICATIONS CAN HELP
I had a lot of friends who had met their boyfriend that way, so I listened to all their advice and came across Tinder.
# 5: SAY NOT
I hate to say no, and I know for sure that there are people willing to take advantage of it.
But this year, when I found myself stuck by the same type of guy not good, I rethought my strategy and I learned to say no firmly.
No to a relationship that did not meet my expectations, not to take the same bad path I took in the last relationship.
# 6: SAY YES TO YOURSELF
While I was busy saying yes to everyone, most of the time I found myself saying no to myself.
No, I can not splurge and buy this beautiful outfit today, no I can not sleep an extra hour when someone needs me, no I can not take a day off just for the pleasure.
# 7: DEFEND YOUR IDEAS
In 2017, defending my ideas helped enormously to improve my self-esteem. In defending myself, I showed people that I deserved the same individual treatment as they!
# 8: KNOW WHEN IT’S ENOUGH
Sometimes life gives us obstacles for a reason, and we need to recognize when to stop, whether it’s in a relationship that just does not work or maybe a change in our career path.
# 9: EVERYONE SHOULD NOT LOVE ME
It may be a lesson I have already learned, but I had to repeat the lesson in 2017.
I tried so much to please the other person in my relationship, that I forgot that everyone should not love me. I did not have to settle for someone who was less than I deserved, and it did not matter that I did not like it in the end.
# 10: CONTINUE TO TRY WHEN YOU FAIL
I was so discouraged with some of the events that occurred, both in the personal and professional life. This is an important lesson to learn because if you stop simply because you did not succeed first, second or third time, you will not succeed at all.
# 11: ALL KISSES WILL NOT BECOME A FAIRY TALE
Of course, I think it could be the right one! I will trust him; I’ll get closer to him, maybe even give him a glimpse of my heart. If it is the right one, it will be worthy, but everyone we believe in will not meet our expectations. I will not be discouraged, and if I fail, I will return to lesson number 10.
# 12: KNOW THE TRUE MEANING OF FRIENDSHIP
Social media can deceive us with people we add as “friends”, but does that make us our true friend? True friends can be counted on the fingers of one hand.
Once you know who your true friends are, you will probably have no trouble sharing information with them and trusting them with such information, unlike that knowledge on social media that “like” all your photos.
# 13: LOVE BEFORE EVERYTHING
We always talk about self-esteem, but it seems that our society pushes us to consider the word “selfish” as a bad thing.
If you love yourself first and pass yourself first, it’s not unhealthy selfishness. You just take care of yourself. You must take care of yourself and make sure to eat well, get enough sleep and be the best person possible.